Thursday, December 18, 2008
For each person, how you communicate verbally and non-verbally tells everybody else something about you. Are you more verbally expressive or are you more the quiet type? Does your body language speak more loudly than your words speak? When you are happy, does it show on your face or do you just feel it inside and keep your facial expression 'in tact'? Are you a person who expresses through body language by reacting clearly to every thing and other people are easily aware of what is happening for you?
In the hands, there are many markings that each person has but one specifically, the heart line, which is the horizontal line closest to the fingers that begins under the pinkie, identifies your non-verbal expression type.
If it curves up and touches either the index or middle finger, then you tend to show how you feel through your body language and facial expressions.
If your heart line is straight and DOESN'T curve up but just goes across the hand from under the pinkie towards to the middle finger or index finger, then you are much more careful about body language. Expressing your feelings doesn't make you feel comfortable. People can't read your facial expressions because you've gotten very good, organically, at not showing how you feel.
Neither of these styles is right or wrong. They are what they are. And judging somebody else for not expressing like you isn't helpful. They are who they are and are being true to themselves.
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
Isn't that really the truth about eveything in our life? Your relationship with yourself is teh basis for all other relationships. Psychologists talk about that whatever you like about yourself you see in others as a benefit. What you don't like about yourself you see in others as being something you don't like about them. Psychologists call it 'projection' - where you project your own feelings onto another person.
The Law of Attraction says that whatever you focus on you get more of that. So if your relationships with others aren't working for you, what are you focusing on? Are you paying more attention go what you don't like about somebody else or more attention to what's working in the relationship?
Combining these two theories - projection and the law of attraction - it pretty much boils down to this: how you feel about yourself has a huge effect on your relationships with everybody else. So becoming even more aware of how you feel about yourself, what you like, don't like and what you project onto others will provide huge clues to success or not in relationships.
And there is so much information in your hands that identifies what motivates you, what you want, how you want to be treated, your perspective, viewpoint and filter through which you look at others and how compatible or not they are with you.
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
Wednesday, October 15, 2008
I meet people who are skeptical about hand analysis. In fact, last weekend I was reading hands at a holistic fair. An entire family came at the beckoning of the grandmother who had a private reading with me a few weeks earlier. Her son-in-law and husband were skeptical until I looked at their hands and pinpointed some very relevant information.
Here's the big deal: your entire body is your soul map and your hands are a microcosm. So why wouldn't your hands represent everything about you? They do. Your entire map is represented by the lines in your palm, your fingerprints and handshape. Additionally, the texture of your palm means something, the colors in different parts of your hands reflect information to a trained hand analyst.
Lines can change in the hands - they don't have to but they can.
And I get asked this question all the time: what does the left hand mean and what does the right hand mean?
In the system I use, the right hands represents how you present yourself out in the world - your first impression. Your left hand represents how people know you more personally - how you might express yourself in private with family, close friends, for example.
And there is so much more to your hands than shared here. Because your hands are you entire soul map - your map for your life that can bring so much clarity!
There some articles on my website that identify specific markings that may assist in understanding even more - www.handsoncompany.com/products.html
Monday, October 6, 2008
People ask me all the time how I got into this business - I guess because it's so unusual people want to know how it could have happened and why I do it as a profession.
In 1991 I was in business for myself, creating computer graphics. Realizing the value of networkign and truthfully, wanting some connections with others - working on a computer much of the day can be quite lonely when you're at home - I found a group that was focused on a more spiritual type of networking. so I went. In January one of the meetings I attended, Todd shared that Richard Unger would be speaking in a couple of weeks and that he was going to teach a weekend intensive on Hand Analysis. Having been interested in most metaphysical sciences up until that time, I was curious how hand analysis fit along with astrology (which I was currently doing part time as well), numerology and other styles of personality maps.
Well, it fit perfectly. I had heard about Hand Analysis from one of Richard's students, Elizabeth, 3 years earlier when we exchanged readings - she read my hands, I did her astrology chart. But I never forgot Richard's name. So at the very least, curiosity intrigued me.
As Richard spoke about Gift Markings in the hands, I couldn't deny how totally fascinated I was. After the meeting, I approached him with the words, "I have to learn how to do this - I have to learn how to read hands." He gave me his card, I called the next day and we chatted for quite a while. The intensive he was teaching two weeks later ended up at my house. Within the first two hours of that weekend, I knew this was for me. I knew it was my path to travel. So two weeks later I was in the year long certification class. And it changed my life. Truly. I feel so blessed to have this skill, the talent to share what I've learned and be of service in people's lives in such a miraculous and magical way.
Tuesday, September 30, 2008
Monday, September 15, 2008
Each heart type has specific requests to experience satisfying sexual relationships. The following explanation is not the WHOLE picture because the heart line is only one marking on the hands. It’s also possible that circumstances, experiences and individual beliefs influence your perspectives. For instance, sexual abuse may impact your desire/issues around sexual activity.
If you have multiple heart lines, the information still applies for each heart line type. The application depends on the circumstances, people involved, mood, which heart line is dominant. And also be aware that it could change in the middle of a lovemaking session.
With a Passionate on one hand and a Hermit on the other, the Passionate could start making love but the Hermit could come appear, changing the mood. Your partner says something that feels disloyal and the Hermit loses trust in that moment.
Or if you have a Big Heart and Romantic Idealist, both need connection before making love.
Passionate: Of all the heart lines, this is the one that potentially has the highest need for actual sexual and sensual experiences. You could have sex just for the sake of the physical activity. None of the other heart lines are motivated in this same way. The desires for the Passionate heart line are about stimulation, excitement, fun, playfulness, intensity of expression and feelings, communication through the physical body. The curvier your Passionate heart line, the more potential for a higher sex requirement.
Big Heart: If there isn’t connection at an emotional level, it is very difficult for this heart line to engage in meaningful sex. It’s best if verbal, physical and emotional affection as well as foreplay are an integral part of every lovemaking session with a Big Heart. "Quickies" generally don’t work for a Big Heart. But Big Hearts are very affectionate and sometimes hugging or holding satisfies a sexual desire temporarily. Also, Big Hearts, because they are other oriented, may agree to engage in sexual activity when that isn’t really what they want, or may agree as long as he or she also gets connection time in another way - maybe negotiating or bargaining is involved.
Romantic Idealist: Lovemaking is most satisfying for the Romantic Idealist when deep conversation is involved, either before or during lovemaking. Or, if the pattern has been established that having a deep meaningful conversation gets to follow sex, then that is the payoff for the Romantic Idealist. If the relationship is at odds, and there hasn’t been recent time to share deeply, the disconnection may be too big to overcome and have the Romantic Idealist actually be able to be present for lovemaking. You may go through the motions to please your partner, (others first) putting his or her needs first, but your joy and emotional expression are missing.
Hermit: Being an earth heart line, the Hermit’s needs are tangible, more solid, grounded, and physical. Because commitment, loyalty and integrity are so important to a Hermit, having sex for the sake of sex generally doesn’t fit in the picture. If things in the relationship are on good terms, sex is possible as long as the Hermit has had enough sanctuary time to feel satisfied, and doesn’t feel his or her partner is using sex to cling and get connection.
Thursday, September 4, 2008
Did you know that two of the heart lines are espeically receiving challenged? They are the Hermit and Big Heart. Why, or how is this true?
The Big Heart, long and curvy, is focused on other people's needs first. There is a feeling of "selfishness" if the Big Heart receives. Not to worry. But it can be learned. "Receiving challenged" doesn't mean it's not possible. In fact, some Big Hearts I've talked with have moved to the master path and can actually say "thank you" when given a compliment. And receive gifts in the same manner, without deflecting or changing topics.
The Hermit is short straight heart line, completely opposite from the Big Heart, and can also be 'receiving challenged' but for a different reason. Hermits tend to be self-contained. They would rather do things themselves because then it won't have to done over and it will be done right the first time. So receviing help is more challenging for a Hermit. And even compliments may look difficult to receive because Hermits tend to be cautious about communicating feelings so a response to a compliment may be a nod or a twinkle in the eye - you may have to look for it.
And this can be a learned change, too. Not all Hermits are quietly responsive. Some actually say "thank you" out loud and the ones on the master path actually ask for help and let themselves be given to.
If you don't have one of these heart line types, it may be frustrating for you when you give a compliment or offer to help and are rejected. Don't give up and maybe providing feedback would benefit if you can do it with humor like, "feeling a little bit receiving challenged at the moment?"
Thursday, August 21, 2008
Heart lines that curve up and touch the index finger (Big Heart) or middle finger (Passionate) actually have a NEED to express feelings. The straight heart line types (Hermit & Romantic Idealist) don't have this same need. It comes from a pressure that builds through the neurology of the curvy line.
For example, if you have curvy lines and find yourself holding back on expressing feelings, the pressure builds until you do. And then you do express and the relief is huge. You can move to the next level because you've "moved through and moved on."
And because these curvy heart lines are designed express, any holding back is counter to your innate design and isn't of service to you.
Friday, August 15, 2008
This heart line that is straight and ends under the index (Jupiter) finger has another significant characteristic. If you read the previous blog about the Romantic Idealist you learned that his heart line type is cautious about communicating feelings and is very observant.
Along with being observant this love style type is also challenged to make decisions easily. Of all the fourt heart line types. the Romantic Idealist, I believe, is the most challenged to identify what is wanted, and then ask for it. First of all, an RI is focused on other people's needs first, making identifying their own needs somewhat inhibiting. "Do I have the right to my own needs," maybe the question an RI asks internally.So identify the needs - step one - is already a question.
The second step is actually formulating the desire into a language in the mind of an RI. This may be a while - not only minutes but maybe hours, days, weeks. Because the straight line brings rationality into the picture and thinking about feelings, to actually formulate the desire in language requires going through the analytical cycle and whether or not the desire " makes sense." To any other heart line type this process seems painfully slow.
The third is actually saying the request out loud or writing it down (easier than verbalizing for most Romantic Idealists). so by the time a request is actually verbalized it has gone through quite a process. And some requests never reach the surface or see the light of day because the analytical process may stop the RI from actually believing he or she has the right to ask for this or that it's possible to have this desire met.
Recommendation: take a risk. Just say something sometime without having to spend a lot of time thinking it through as a 'test' to an alternative process. I could speed up having your needs met.
Wednesday, August 6, 2008
When this shows up on a hand, it means that the owner of the line will use both their heart (feelings) and head (thinking) when making decisions. The good news is that this person is fully in alignment with whatever decision is made - because they have included both feelings AND the logical/analytical mind/thinking parts of themselves to decide something. So their energy is fully engaged and committed to following the decision. Let's say the owner of this hand above, we'll call her Judy, has been asked to join a friend for a day hike. Knowing the location of the hike would be important (head line info) and who else is going (heart line info). Once that information is provided, then Judy could decide if the logistics (head line) would work and if the emotional experience about who is going and whether or not she likes them (heart line) works for her. If Judy is in alignment with both the location and the people, then it would be possible to say "yes" to the hike and be fully engaged - both feelings and thinking are saying this is a good thing.
The challenge, however, is when their heart has a different idea than their head. For example, if in the above story Judy likes the location but doesn't like one of the people who is going, Judy may be challenged to decide what to do. Her head is happy with the logistics but her heart isn't all that joyful about this one person. What does she do?
People with a Board of Directors line are often in turmoil about making decisions. So often they let others decide and they go along with the decision or they feel confused about a decision and don't know whether to "feel good about it or not" (heart) or "wonder if the right decision was made (head).
Solution: allow both your feelings and thoughts to be considered, even saying them out loud if necessary. Then trust your gut. It will be easier on you and everybody if you are the one with the Board of Directors line.
Monday, August 4, 2008
For each love style there is a student path (what doesn't feel good) and the master path (what feels good, what serves you best). And in each moment you are at choice about which option you select.
The reason this matter is because, like anything in life, you are the master of your environment. You are the one who trains others how to treat you, as Dr. Phil says from television.
How are you educating people in life how to treat you? How are you acting and responding that tells them, "it's OK to treat me this way." Recently I was at a gathering where somebody was saying things to me tht didn't feel good, although he claims he was teasing me. Even after I teased him back about not saying these things to me, he continued. I decided to educate him in a different way - directly by saying it didn't feel like teasing to me.
I stood on the master path of my heart line and said what I felt, and said what was not OK about how to be treated.
Each day we have many chances to choose the master or student path in every interaction. What does being true to your heart look like with your co-workers? partners? children? family? friends? When you know, in your body, that how somebody is talking to you doesn't feel right to you, what choice do you make? Do you let it continue? Do you ask yourself what other options exist? Do you ask yourself, "what could I say that might provide more clarity for this other person about how I want to be treated in the future?"
Each day, each hour you have the choice to honor yourself and feel the truth of what supports you. And you can help others learn what that is so it's a win-win for everybody.
Thursday, July 31, 2008
Knowing this may or may not be new news to you. But applying it to heart lines, your love style and your communication style may be a new thought.
What does it mean?
What it means is that, determined by whatever heart line(s) you have in your hands, you have a filter, a perspective from which you look at life, how you determine what you want from others in your life with whom you are in relationship. And your filter is your point of "attraction."
For example, if you have a Passionate heart line type on both hands, your "filter", your "point of attraction" is through the eyes of "I want what I want and I want it now." So on the good news side, you often get what you want because you are in alignment with knowing what you want and asking for it.
If you are on the student path, challenging side, your "point of attraction" could be "I never get what I want" or "people don't know how to figure out what I want and give it to me" or "I don't deserve to have what I want". So you would be challenged to have your needs met.
For each heart line type, each love style type (they are the same thing) you have a point of attraction. For the Hermit's master path, it could be maintaining your freedom and attracting people and circumstances into your life where you maintain your freedom. But on the student path side, where the law of attraction is also always in effect, if you dwell on feeling trapped and notice where you are feeling trapped, then you attract more of that.
For the Big Heart, paying attention to (law of attraction gives you more of what you pay attention to) having people in your life give back to you and you receive it - the biggest part for you - then you attract more of that - more people giving back to you. But if your focus is so much more on how you give to others, then you feel a lack of being given to because you attract people who want you to give to them. It's all within your consciousness and where you focus your attention.
Romantic Idealists, if focused on being considerate and desiring considerate people in their lives, they attract more of those people. But if they are in resistance to or noticing how "inconsiderate" people are, then they attract more of that.
This law of attraction is always in affect relates to every aspect of each heart line type which would be a good reason to know what all the characteristics are. It's doubtful they will all be explained in this blog in short order (maybe throughout the year). So if you want a more rapid access to knowing the characteristics that affect every relationship in your life, you can check out my web site at http://www.handsoncompany.com/ under products see that there are books and audios that provide much more detail.
Warmly and with enthusiasm that all relationships can be improved just by knowing your heart line/love style,
Sunday, July 27, 2008
Monday, July 21, 2008
Friday, July 18, 2008
This heart line, which begins under the pinkie (Mercury) and ends under the index finger (Jupiter) is the longest of all the four heart line types, looking at it from a 'pen stroke' perspective. This means using hand analysis rules, the longer it is the more time you spend in it. That is why it is called the "Big Heart." Big Hearts desire connection. They are motivated by connection with others, being there to help others through a crisis or any proportion. Additionally, they do it from their heart, a genuine, authentic desire to assist others. And by helping others they feel satisfied that some connection has been established.
Saturday, July 12, 2008
What would you like to know? Is there anything specific that would be helpful for you to know or that would answer your questions about your love style or communication style?
Thursday, July 10, 2008
Imagine this - your entire body is your soul map. Your hands are a micrcosm of your body so your hand is also your soul map. Each line in the hands means something, just as each finger represents a specific energy. And the finger sections each represent something tangible. So if each line means something, what does each line mean?
Your heart line is about feelings, your emotional perspective, emotional response. So in your relationships, your heart line carries the most influence in your love style and your love language.
The head line is how you think and approach problem solving.
Your life line is about your vitality and your roots - your family, community, tribe.
Your fate line is about your career track, your work style, your approach to taking care of tasks.
Just understanding this may help appreciate why each line is important in the overall scheme of your soul map and personality expression. What hand analysts look for are
1. how long or short is the line
2. how clean is it or does it have extra lines connected to it
3. is it deeply grooved or very lightly drawn or somewhere in between
Every one of these options identifies something tangible about your approach to what the line represents.
So on the love styles, that's what I'm sharing with you - tangible information related to the heart/emotions/feelings.
Previous blogs have provided some helpful details as future ones will also.
see some free articles on my web site http://www.handsoncompany.com/ regarding finger prints
that identify Life Purpose, Gift Markings and one even on the creative part of the hand.
Monday, July 7, 2008
Tuesday, July 1, 2008
What if you have the same heart line type on both hands?
This does happen about 1/3 of the time.
You then are more singly focused on what you want in relationships. For example if you have Big Hearts on both hands, there is little room for being self-oriented because your focus is so much loving and taking care of others.
Your communication style is consistent and people can count on your to be relatively the same, whether it's student or master path behaviors, the phrases I use to describe the challenges (student) and strengths (master). People know you will be there for them unless you have burned out from giving too much and are taking a break from giving.
Passionates on both hands can again be consistenly Passionate: I want what I want and I want it now with very little room for patience with others who are challenged to make decisions as easily as you know or identify what they want as easily as you do (Romantic Idealists, for example).
So having the same heart line type on both hands lends more consistency of behavior and people get "the same person" most of the time. I do need to add that this doesn't take into account other markings in the hands because this is only the heart line. But it is a very significant line in relationship desires and expectations.
Do you have the same lines on both hands (you can look at archived posts for June to see what the heart line types look like on hands).
If you're interested in learning more about products related to the heart lines, there are some options on my web site.
Saturday, June 28, 2008
Long heart lines terminate under the index finger, called Jupiter.
To the very right is a Romantic Idealist, the straight, long line. The hand print on the left is the Big Heart. It curves up and touches the finger, so is long and curvy.
Each of these heart line types is focused in meeting the needs of others first. "Let me be there for you before I identify my own needs," is how they live, the perspective from which they make decisions in relationships.
Frustrating to the short heart line types, for whom identifying their desires is much easier, these long heart line types don't quite understand why the short heart line types (Passionate and Hermit - see previous blog)) are so frustrated with them when the Romantic Idealist and Big Heart are so giving.
Just knowing if somebody has a short or long heart line type could help you in relationship appreciate that the other person is coming from a different perspective and has a different relationship with identifying their needs and thus getting them met.
Monday, June 23, 2008
Hermits Need Freedom
Saturday, June 21, 2008
Wednesday, June 18, 2008
Your heart line is the horizontal line closest to the fingers that begins under your pinkie and goes across the hand.
When your heart line curves up and touches the middle or index finger it is considered "curvy". (hand print on the left) .With a curvy heart line you NEED to express how you feel. It doesn't always come easy but at some point enough pressure will build if you haven't been expressing all along and out will pour words and soemtimes accompanied by strong emotions.
People with straight heart lines (hand print on the right) are wired differently and don't feel the NEED to express their emotions. They are more reserved and cautious in emotional expression.
If your heart line curves up and touches the middle finger that is called a Passionate heart line. The one that touches the index finger is called a Big Heart. You can tell by the names that they have different approaches, which I will cover in subsequent blogs.
Tuesday, June 17, 2008
Each of the four heart line types identifies how you want to be treated in relationship and your communication style. What if your partner has a different style than you do? How does that affect your communication? How does that affect getting your needs met?
And it's not uncommon that your partner would have an "opposite" heart line type since we've heard for many years that opposites attract.
In subsequent articles, I'll share some specifics about the heart lines and what each type of heart line desires in relationship. And maybe it will help you in your relationships.
By the way, the information relates to children, co-workers, clients, family members and friends.