Tuesday, November 18, 2008

It's All About Relationships

It's All About Relationships

Isn't that really the truth about eveything in our life? Your relationship with yourself is teh basis for all other relationships. Psychologists talk about that whatever you like about yourself you see in others as a benefit. What you don't like about yourself you see in others as being something you don't like about them. Psychologists call it 'projection' - where you project your own feelings onto another person.

The Law of Attraction says that whatever you focus on you get more of that. So if your relationships with others aren't working for you, what are you focusing on? Are you paying more attention go what you don't like about somebody else or more attention to what's working in the relationship?

Combining these two theories - projection and the law of attraction - it pretty much boils down to this: how you feel about yourself has a huge effect on your relationships with everybody else. So becoming even more aware of how you feel about yourself, what you like, don't like and what you project onto others will provide huge clues to success or not in relationships.

And there is so much information in your hands that identifies what motivates you, what you want, how you want to be treated, your perspective, viewpoint and filter through which you look at others and how compatible or not they are with you.

1 comment:

Cameron B Sharpe said...

a relationship between a person and someone other than (their) spouse (or lover) that has an impact on the level of intimacy, emotional distance and overall dynamic balance in the marriage. The role of an affair is to create emotional distance in the marriage. The critical principle to consider is the possibility of unconscious emotional benefits gained by the uninvolved spouse. The goal of therapy is to resolve the intimacy problems in the couple relationship so that an affair will no longer be 'needed.' This model does not consider the possibility of accidental affairs nor those that arise out of individual pathology or habit rather than relationship difficulties.