Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Your Love Life - Successful?

Is Your Love Life Successful?
by Pamelah Landers

How would you define a successful love life? Would you see it as being hugged? Talked to in a soothing voice? Somebody helping you do things? Do you feel loved when you are listened to? How about when the other person wants to make love with you? Does that equate to feeling loved? Maybe it's a few of these things and maybe it's something else completely. Maybe you feel loved when your partner actually gives you free to do what you want to do?

One thing I know from reading hands is that people do have their individual style of what being loved means to them. The biggest issue I see is that people aren't communicating it with their spouse, partner or dating partner. Sometimes that's because you don't have the words to articulate what you want. And sometimes it comes from not feeling like you deserve to be heard.

Here is a one major characteristic for each heart line type about what it looks like and how it feels when that heart line type is feeling loved, or when you are experiencing your love style.

Passionate heart line type: Passionates feel loved when you express your feelings, your feelings are taken into consideration by your partner and then action is taken to satisfy your desire. You ask directly for where you want to celebrate Valentine's Day, what you want to do after dinner and how you want to have your partner dress. Your partner says yes to all your requests and you feel loved.

Big Heart line type: Big Hearts feel loved when you are giving to another and it is received. You desire to make dinner for your husband, want him to dress up for dinner and dance with you afterwards in the living room to your favorite songs. Your husband loves this idea and appreciates every piece of the evening, and tells you how much he appreciates you and what you have done. You take it in and receive his praise. You feel loved.

Romantic Idealist heart line type: Romantic Idealists desire to be heard, to engage in a deep, meaningful conversation. When there is conversation both ways and each person is sharing and being heard at a deep level, the Romantic Idealist feels loved.

Hermit heart line type: Hermits show love by doing things for others. Rotating your tires on Valentine's Day or fixing the lawn mower would be a perfect, ideal gift for a Hermit to give you. In response, if you show love to a Hermit by doing something for him or her, the Hermit will feel loved. If you create a nice meal on Valentine's Day, making his or her favorite meal, and then take action to participate in an activity that the Hermit loves, the Hermit will feel loved.

Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Heart Lines and Asking for Assistance

Heart Lines - Asking for Assistance

Here is how the four heart line types approaching asking for assistance.

The four heart line types are the Passionate, Big Heart, Hermit and Romantic Idealist. If you look at the archive of blogs on this blogpost, from 2008, especially June and July, there are hand prints that show what the four heart line types look like.

The Big Heart is very focused on giving and nurturing so asking for help could feel selfish. On the master path, a Big Heart asks for help and trusts that it's important that the other person wants to give to the Big Heart - it's not a burden.

The Hermit is very self-contained. Thus asking for help may challenge the Hermit because it requires asking somebody else to do something that Hermit can easily do him or herself. On the master path, Hermits create a relationship with somebody they trust and thus ask for assistance if trust is part of the relationship - if the other person is reliable.

The Romantic Idealist may also be somewhat challenged to request assistance, because their pattern is to feel that it's rude to interrupt another. It would be inconsiderate. On the master path, the Romantic Idealist could take ownership that others want to help too. That others may also find it a considerate thing to give to the Romantic Idealist.

Passionates are the best examples of asking for assistance because they truly believe they deserve it!