Heart Lines and Asking for Assistance

Heart Lines - Asking for Assistance

Here is how the four heart line types approaching asking for assistance.

The four heart line types are the Passionate, Big Heart, Hermit and Romantic Idealist. If you look at the archive of blogs on this blogpost, from 2008, especially June and July, there are hand prints that show what the four heart line types look like.

The Big Heart is very focused on giving and nurturing so asking for help could feel selfish. On the master path, a Big Heart asks for help and trusts that it's important that the other person wants to give to the Big Heart - it's not a burden.

The Hermit is very self-contained. Thus asking for help may challenge the Hermit because it requires asking somebody else to do something that Hermit can easily do him or herself. On the master path, Hermits create a relationship with somebody they trust and thus ask for assistance if trust is part of the relationship - if the other person is reliable.

The Romantic Idealist may also be somewhat challenged to request assistance, because their pattern is to feel that it's rude to interrupt another. It would be inconsiderate. On the master path, the Romantic Idealist could take ownership that others want to help too. That others may also find it a considerate thing to give to the Romantic Idealist.

Passionates are the best examples of asking for assistance because they truly believe they deserve it!

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Control issues from the heart lines perspective

How each of the heart line types is motivated to maintain control

Yesterday in a class I was teaching, I shared how each of the four heart line types is motivated to be in control. And they are all different. As a reminder, heart lines are the ones closest to your fingers that start under the pinkie (Mercury) finger. You can see hand print examples of the heart line types in the June-July 2008 archives on this blog.

Everybody likes to control their environment in some way but are motivated differently. From the heart line perspective (remembering this is only one line in the hand) here is what's important.

The Big Heart (long and curves up to and touches the index -Jupiter - finger) finds it important to have control over his or her giving territory. What this means is that a Big Heart has a 'giving territory', a person or group of people to whom the Big Heart gives. And the Big Heart doesn't want other people giving to those same people in the same way the Big Heart does - so will protect the giving territory. For example, a mother with a Big Heart provides nutritious meals to her children and doesn't like it when other family members or friends give sugar to her children which she has kept out of their diet. Her 'giving territory' of her children is now violated and she wants to control how her chilren are fed.

The Hermit (short and straight and ends under the middle - Saturn - finger) wants to control his or her environment. This could look like having an office and nobody gets to touch any papers or move anything, including the stapler, without permission from the Hermit. The Hermit seeks security and anything moved without consent feels unsecure. So the Hermit will do whatever he or she can to maintain control of their physical environment.

The Romantic Idealist (long and straight ending under the index - Jupiter- finger) wants control by thinking things through before deciding or taking action. This is motivated by wanting to know the outcome and then to be prepared for possible potential outcomes. So they may delay a decision until they feel clear about potential outcomes and this feels controlling, not only to the Romantic Idealist, but to others in their life. For example, a Romantic Idealist may want to go to the movies but wants to make sure that there will be ample parking, a seat that is an appropriate distance from the screen and that it works with the rest of their planned out day. The logsitics (thought through pieces of the plan) need to be in place and under the Romantic Idealist's control as much as possible.

The Passionate (curves up to and touches the middle - Saturn - finger) on the master path maintains control by asking directly for what he or she wants and allows others to give it to him or her. On the student path, control is maintained by manipulating. A possibility would be when a Passionate wants to eat out, on the master path control would look like saying, "I want to eat this type of food at this specific restaurant." On the student path, it could be, "I want to go out and eat," creating space for the other person involved to have input about what type of food or what restaurant. But the Passionate actually knows that ahead of time but just hasn't stated it so a manipulative process ensues until the CORRECT restaurant has been agreed upon.

Each heart line type is motivated differently and that's important to understand. Others aren't trying to be difficult with you, they just have different motivations for staying in control and where control matters to them.

Relationship Issues

Relationship Issues in the Hands

One of the areas of hand analysis that is fascinating is how many factors influence one's relationships. For example, the heart line which is covered on many of the blog postings here, determine how a person expresses feelings and how a person wants to be loved - with affection, with words, with space, with passion, through deep conversations, through short conversations, etc. So many choices depending on which heart line type(s) you have.

Fascinatingly, there are many other hand markings that also influence how one approaches relationships. The types of fingerprints can be influential, as well as how long the head line is, what the hand shape is, how many lines you have.

People with very few lines (like between 3 and 9) tend to be 'bottom line get to the point' type of people who prefer to be communicated with in bullet points (this is a bit of simplification!) However, a person with many lines in the hands (15 or more) tends to want to share way more information that somebody with very few lines wants to hear. Just knowing that, already you can see that different approaches to comunication could result in one feeling loved or not. "You don't listen to me" a person with many lines may feel. And that could translate to feeling 'unloved' or that there is a 'relationship issue.'

A person with very few lines may feel the person with many lines is 'overcommunicating." TMI (too much information - I think that phrase was made up by somebody with very few lines!) So the person with very few lines may feel unloved because they feel the person with many lines doesn't understand what 'effective communication' looks like to a person with few lines.

And this is only one aspect of what is in the hands. This is by way of saying that patience, understanding and compassion are so helpful when somebody communicates in a way that doesn't match your style. And maybe if the issue is few lines vs many lines, this little bit of info can help you be more understanding in your relationships. If you have very few lines, maybe you could tell others you want to be communicated with in bullet points.

If you have many lines, maybe you can share how much you appreciate somebody hanging in there with you while you "get to the point more slowly with more information."

Bending Over Backwards Line

Bending Over Backwards Line

In the hand print posted here, see the line that curves down off the heart line? The heart line is the one closest to the fingers.

It's not a usual pattern to see an extra line bending away from the heart line so this is a special marking. When that happens, the owner of this line 'bends over backwards' to meet the needs

of other people at their own expense. Another way to phrase this is that the owner of this line might 'rearrange' his or her emotional state to take care of another's emotional state.

For example, if Joan owns this bending over backwards line, she may choose not speak her feelings to her husband when he says something hurtful. Instead, internally she 'rearranges' her own feelings to take care of his by telling herself, "He's tired. He didn't really mean to hurt my feelings."

Or Bill may own this line and feels uncomfortable saying out loud that he's tolerating his son's ranting when what Bill wants really is to tell his son to quiet down, that the ranting isn't going to get him what he wants. Bill rearranges his own emotional states, bends over backwards to not hurt his son's feelings or risk more anger. But the cost to Bill is stuffing his feelings.

On the master path, recognizing you are not speaking up, not speaking from your heart, rearranging your emotional state is a benefit. Then you can choose: do you take the risk to speak your heart or let somebody else's emotional needs take precedence over yours?

Fingerprints - some medical information

Fingerprints - some medical information
Based on medical research fingerprints are fully formed somewhere between 16-20 weeks after conception, before some other organs in the body. And they never change, which we all know.

The volar pads that form the fingerprints are raised at different levels on the fingers, meaning that whorls are raised on the finger the highest amount where arches are flat and don't raise up on the volar pads. Peacocks and composites follow closely behind whorls, then loops, tented arches and arches. So the ranking system used to identify Life Purpose (highest ranked) and Life Lesson (lowest ranked) is based on the formation of the fingerprints on the volar pads.

But fingerprints are different from any other part of the hands because they don't change. So I understand fingerprints to be much more of an identification of a person's soul agreement. I don't lump them in with other hand markings because they stand on their own. That doesn't mean I don't include other hand markings in a session with clients. What it means is that from birth to death, regardless of any other hand markings, there is a reason for this person to be here and it's tangible.

There are other parts of the body that are just as significant for identification and don't change the same as fingerprints: voice, retina, walk, eye color, 8 basal cells at the base of the spine - just for what I arleady know about. And I'm sure there are other things I don't know.
All fingers matter because each of the 10 has a very specific purpose - including master and student path. And if a finger is the 'life lesson' finger, it creates valuable insights for a person to know obstacles that can be faced, understood, consciously chosen to make changes one step at a time. The combination of life purpose fingers and life lesson fingers creates an even more sophisticated understanding of what truly creates the highest possibility of satisfaction, joy and soul fulfillment. I'm grateful to Richard Unger for this addition to Hand Analysis in his way. It's helped me know myself more and many, many clients.

Your Hands, Your Relationships

What does the hand say about relationships?

All over your hands are markings that provide information about what you want in relationships: how you communicate, how long you spend solving problems, ho wmuch you want to talk about feelings or don't, what being loved looks like to you, and especially your Life Purpose and how that affects your joy and happiness. Your fingerprints identify your Life Purpose and Life Lesson.

The head line: this is the horizontal line that begins on the thumb side of the hand and goes across toward the outer edge.

For example, let's say you have a long head line and your partner has a short one. Long head lined people like more information before making a decision. Short head line people tend to make decisions with 2 or 3 pieces of data vs the 10-12 a long head line person may want. Can you imagine this could cause frustration in relationship? Making a decision about a vacation is up for you. The long head lined person wants to investigate options, such as which island in Hawaii or even considering Fiji. The short head line person only wants to choose between two hotels on one island. Good news here is the long head lined person can research and present choices. But if there are too many choices, the short head lined person may just blow it off, pick one whether or not that is what he or she really wanted because too much data doesn't interest them.

This is just a small example and there are other variables, of course, because only one marking in the hands isn't enough to really establish the similarities and differences between people.

No two hands are the same, not even yours left and right hands. So each person approaches everything from their own perspective. Each person's viewpoint is theirs and it's not really appropriate to try to insist or encourage or manipulate them into trying to take on your viewpoint. Compormises yes, but giving up one's needs based on their hand markings can cause resentment in relationships.

The right to have Desires

The right to have desires

One of the heart lines, the Passionate, has the easiest time identifying how he or she feels. The other heart line types are more challenged in this particular skill. The Passionate Heart Line is the line closest to the fingers, begins under the pinkie and ends under the middle finger. It actually curves up and touches the middle finger.

The Passionate can become very frustrated when the other heart line types don't know what they want or don't ask for it. It makes no sense to a Passionate that anybody would believe they didn't have 'the right to desires.' But the Romantic Idealist, the most common partner for the Passionate, is THE most challenged heart line to identify and ask for what he or she wants. The Romantic Idealist is a long heart line and straight one that ends under the inex finger.

When people have one hand with a Passionate and one hand with a Romantic Idealist, there could be confusion about identifying desires and expressing them out loud. Maybe on some topics the Passionate hand takes charge and is able to say, "i know I want to go to the beach" with fervor and energy. And at other times, the Romantic Idealist is in charge and analyzes a situation, challenged to make a decision. It may sound like, "I'd like to go to the beach but it's cloudy today and I'm not sure what time the sun is going to come out so that means I need layers of clothes. Maybe we shouldn't go until after 11:30."

When these two heart line types are in relationship, learning how to listen to each one, honoring it and yet allowing both heart line types to have a voice is important for relationship success.

You can learn more about your heart line types through a variety of products at my web site found at www.handsoncompany.com/products.html. Scroll down to the section on heart lines ad see the books, audios and songs that represents the heart line types.

Communication is the bottom line

Communication is the Bottom Line

For each person, how you communicate verbally and non-verbally tells everybody else something about you. Are you more verbally expressive or are you more the quiet type? Does your body language speak more loudly than your words speak? When you are happy, does it show on your face or do you just feel it inside and keep your facial expression 'in tact'? Are you a person who expresses through body language by reacting clearly to every thing and other people are easily aware of what is happening for you?

In the hands, there are many markings that each person has but one specifically, the heart line, which is the horizontal line closest to the fingers that begins under the pinkie, identifies your non-verbal expression type.

If it curves up and touches either the index or middle finger, then you tend to show how you feel through your body language and facial expressions.

If your heart line is straight and DOESN'T curve up but just goes across the hand from under the pinkie towards to the middle finger or index finger, then you are much more careful about body language. Expressing your feelings doesn't make you feel comfortable. People can't read your facial expressions because you've gotten very good, organically, at not showing how you feel.

Neither of these styles is right or wrong. They are what they are. And judging somebody else for not expressing like you isn't helpful. They are who they are and are being true to themselves.

The big deal about hands

What's the big deal about hands?

I meet people who are skeptical about hand analysis. In fact, last weekend I was reading hands at a holistic fair. An entire family came at the beckoning of the grandmother who had a private reading with me a few weeks earlier. Her son-in-law and husband were skeptical until I looked at their hands and pinpointed some very relevant information.

Here's the big deal: your entire body is your soul map and your hands are a microcosm. So why wouldn't your hands represent everything about you? They do. Your entire map is represented by the lines in your palm, your fingerprints and handshape. Additionally, the texture of your palm means something, the colors in different parts of your hands reflect information to a trained hand analyst.

Lines can change in the hands - they don't have to but they can.
And I get asked this question all the time: what does the left hand mean and what does the right hand mean?

In the system I use, the right hands represents how you present yourself out in the world - your first impression. Your left hand represents how people know you more personally - how you might express yourself in private with family, close friends, for example.

And there is so much more to your hands than shared here. Because your hands are you entire soul map - your map for your life that can bring so much clarity!

There some articles on my website that identify specific markings that may assist in understanding even more - www.handsoncompany.com/products.html

How I started reading hands

How I started reading hands

People ask me all the time how I got into this business - I guess because it's so unusual people want to know how it could have happened and why I do it as a profession.

In 1991 I was in business for myself, creating computer graphics. Realizing the value of networkign and truthfully, wanting some connections with others - working on a computer much of the day can be quite lonely when you're at home - I found a group that was focused on a more spiritual type of networking. so I went. In January one of the meetings I attended, Todd shared that Richard Unger would be speaking in a couple of weeks and that he was going to teach a weekend intensive on Hand Analysis. Having been interested in most metaphysical sciences up until that time, I was curious how hand analysis fit along with astrology (which I was currently doing part time as well), numerology and other styles of personality maps.

Well, it fit perfectly. I had heard about Hand Analysis from one of Richard's students, Elizabeth, 3 years earlier when we exchanged readings - she read my hands, I did her astrology chart. But I never forgot Richard's name. So at the very least, curiosity intrigued me.

As Richard spoke about Gift Markings in the hands, I couldn't deny how totally fascinated I was. After the meeting, I approached him with the words, "I have to learn how to do this - I have to learn how to read hands." He gave me his card, I called the next day and we chatted for quite a while. The intensive he was teaching two weeks later ended up at my house. Within the first two hours of that weekend, I knew this was for me. I knew it was my path to travel. So two weeks later I was in the year long certification class. And it changed my life. Truly. I feel so blessed to have this skill, the talent to share what I've learned and be of service in people's lives in such a miraculous and magical way.

Communication - four styles

Four Styles, Four Approaches

If you've been reading the previous posts, you now know that each heart line type, each love style type has a different communication style. Curvy lines need to express how they feel, straight lines are reserved and cautious about communication and sharing feelings. And there has been information on short heart lines being self-focused while long heart lines are focused on other people's needs first.

What you may not yet know is that many people have more than one heart line type. Sometimes your left hand has a different heart line than your right hand. Or you have multiple heart lines on one hand like the example above and in rare cases, both hands have multiple heart lines. Can you see that the heart line splits under the middle finger (Saturn) and then breaks into two lines. In the above case it creates 3 heart line types.

The owner of this has three different communication styles, three ways he or she expresses love and 3 ways to receive love. It may be confusing not only for the heart line owner, but people in his or her life. It's possible that a person with multiple heart lines could bounce back and forth between each expression. And it could happen "in the moment." Let's call this person "Bill" for the sake of conversation. Bill could be warm and friendly with the Big Heart then 'suddenly' become very Hermit-like, wanting to be alone. And it could happen spontaneously. What is Bill to do? Which heart line does he follow? Which expression of love is most promiment?

Another possibility is that Bill could express one style, let's say the Romantic Idealist, for many months, then start owning the Hermit part and tht becomes dominant. There isn't any predictable way the three styles will be expressed. But being conscious of the options, not only for the heart line owner with 3 different potential expressions, but for those around him or her will help the others understand why the 3-heart line type owner may appear 'moody.'

Love Styles and Sex

Love Styles and Sex

Each heart type has specific requests to experience satisfying sexual relationships. The following explanation is not the WHOLE picture because the heart line is only one marking on the hands. It’s also possible that circumstances, experiences and individual beliefs influence your perspectives. For instance, sexual abuse may impact your desire/issues around sexual activity.
If you have multiple heart lines, the information still applies for each heart line type. The application depends on the circumstances, people involved, mood, which heart line is dominant. And also be aware that it could change in the middle of a lovemaking session.

With a Passionate on one hand and a Hermit on the other, the Passionate could start making love but the Hermit could come appear, changing the mood. Your partner says something that feels disloyal and the Hermit loses trust in that moment.
Or if you have a Big Heart and Romantic Idealist, both need connection before making love.

Passionate: Of all the heart lines, this is the one that potentially has the highest need for actual sexual and sensual experiences. You could have sex just for the sake of the physical activity. None of the other heart lines are motivated in this same way. The desires for the Passionate heart line are about stimulation, excitement, fun, playfulness, intensity of expression and feelings, communication through the physical body. The curvier your Passionate heart line, the more potential for a higher sex requirement.

Big Heart: If there isn’t connection at an emotional level, it is very difficult for this heart line to engage in meaningful sex. It’s best if verbal, physical and emotional affection as well as foreplay are an integral part of every lovemaking session with a Big Heart. "Quickies" generally don’t work for a Big Heart. But Big Hearts are very affectionate and sometimes hugging or holding satisfies a sexual desire temporarily. Also, Big Hearts, because they are other oriented, may agree to engage in sexual activity when that isn’t really what they want, or may agree as long as he or she also gets connection time in another way - maybe negotiating or bargaining is involved.

Romantic Idealist: Lovemaking is most satisfying for the Romantic Idealist when deep conversation is involved, either before or during lovemaking. Or, if the pattern has been established that having a deep meaningful conversation gets to follow sex, then that is the payoff for the Romantic Idealist. If the relationship is at odds, and there hasn’t been recent time to share deeply, the disconnection may be too big to overcome and have the Romantic Idealist actually be able to be present for lovemaking. You may go through the motions to please your partner, (others first) putting his or her needs first, but your joy and emotional expression are missing.

Hermit: Being an earth heart line, the Hermit’s needs are tangible, more solid, grounded, and physical. Because commitment, loyalty and integrity are so important to a Hermit, having sex for the sake of sex generally doesn’t fit in the picture. If things in the relationship are on good terms, sex is possible as long as the Hermit has had enough sanctuary time to feel satisfied, and doesn’t feel his or her partner is using sex to cling and get connection.

Love Styes Who are Receiving Challenged

"Receiving Challenged" Heart Lines

Did you know that two of the heart lines are espeically receiving challenged? They are the Hermit and Big Heart. Why, or how is this true?

The Big Heart, long and curvy, is focused on other people's needs first. There is a feeling of "selfishness" if the Big Heart receives. Not to worry. But it can be learned. "Receiving challenged" doesn't mean it's not possible. In fact, some Big Hearts I've talked with have moved to the master path and can actually say "thank you" when given a compliment. And receive gifts in the same manner, without deflecting or changing topics.

The Hermit is short straight heart line, completely opposite from the Big Heart, and can also be 'receiving challenged' but for a different reason. Hermits tend to be self-contained. They would rather do things themselves because then it won't have to done over and it will be done right the first time. So receviing help is more challenging for a Hermit. And even compliments may look difficult to receive because Hermits tend to be cautious about communicating feelings so a response to a compliment may be a nod or a twinkle in the eye - you may have to look for it.

And this can be a learned change, too. Not all Hermits are quietly responsive. Some actually say "thank you" out loud and the ones on the master path actually ask for help and let themselves be given to.

If you don't have one of these heart line types, it may be frustrating for you when you give a compliment or offer to help and are rejected. Don't give up and maybe providing feedback would benefit if you can do it with humor like, "feeling a little bit receiving challenged at the moment?"

Love Style - Curvy heart lines

Curvy heart lines - the need to express feelings
Heart lines that curve up and touch the index finger (Big Heart) or middle finger (Passionate) actually have a NEED to express feelings. The straight heart line types (Hermit & Romantic Idealist) don't have this same need. It comes from a pressure that builds through the neurology of the curvy line.

For example, if you have curvy lines and find yourself holding back on expressing feelings, the pressure builds until you do. And then you do express and the relief is huge. You can move to the next level because you've "moved through and moved on."

And because these curvy heart lines are designed express, any holding back is counter to your innate design and isn't of service to you.

Love Style More on the Romantic Idealist

The Romantic Idealist - part 2

This heart line that is straight and ends under the index (Jupiter) finger has another significant characteristic. If you read the previous blog about the Romantic Idealist you learned that his heart line type is cautious about communicating feelings and is very observant.

Along with being observant this love style type is also challenged to make decisions easily. Of all the fourt heart line types. the Romantic Idealist, I believe, is the most challenged to identify what is wanted, and then ask for it. First of all, an RI is focused on other people's needs first, making identifying their own needs somewhat inhibiting. "Do I have the right to my own needs," maybe the question an RI asks internally.So identify the needs - step one - is already a question.

The second step is actually formulating the desire into a language in the mind of an RI. This may be a while - not only minutes but maybe hours, days, weeks. Because the straight line brings rationality into the picture and thinking about feelings, to actually formulate the desire in language requires going through the analytical cycle and whether or not the desire " makes sense." To any other heart line type this process seems painfully slow.

The third is actually saying the request out loud or writing it down (easier than verbalizing for most Romantic Idealists). so by the time a request is actually verbalized it has gone through quite a process. And some requests never reach the surface or see the light of day because the analytical process may stop the RI from actually believing he or she has the right to ask for this or that it's possible to have this desire met.

Recommendation: take a risk. Just say something sometime without having to spend a lot of time thinking it through as a 'test' to an alternative process. I could speed up having your needs met.

A heart Line extra marking: Board of Directors

The "Board of Directors" Line

In the hand on the left, there is a line that connects the heart line to the head line. It's a straight horizontal line that begins in this print on the thumb side of the hand. See at the edge of the hand, connecting to the beginning of the head line. And is quite straight. It goes to just under the middle (Saturn) finger and ends when it touches the heart line (the line closest to the fingers). Do you see it? That is called "the Board of Directors" line.

One additional technical point - the Board of Directors line connects with heart line under the Saturn finger. The Saturn (middle) finger represents business systems and structures in part. The "Board of Directors" is a term that applies to businesses for the most part which is a Saturn type of energy. So the BOD at the heart line end pulls on the Saturn characteristic of 'responsibility." A person with a BOD would want to be 'responsible' about making decisions so would pull in the mind/head line to make sure that the entire 'responsible' system is involved.

When this shows up on a hand, it means that the owner of the line will use both their heart (feelings) and head (thinking) when making decisions. The good news is that this person is fully in alignment with whatever decision is made - because they have included both feelings AND the logical/analytical mind/thinking parts of themselves to decide something. So their energy is fully engaged and committed to following the decision. Let's say the owner of this hand above, we'll call her Judy, has been asked to join a friend for a day hike. Knowing the location of the hike would be important (head line info) and who else is going (heart line info). Once that information is provided, then Judy could decide if the logistics (head line) would work and if the emotional experience about who is going and whether or not she likes them (heart line) works for her. If Judy is in alignment with both the location and the people, then it would be possible to say "yes" to the hike and be fully engaged - both feelings and thinking are saying this is a good thing.

The challenge, however, is when their heart has a different idea than their head. For example, if in the above story Judy likes the location but doesn't like one of the people who is going, Judy may be challenged to decide what to do. Her head is happy with the logistics but her heart isn't all that joyful about this one person. What does she do?

People with a Board of Directors line are often in turmoil about making decisions. So often they let others decide and they go along with the decision or they feel confused about a decision and don't know whether to "feel good about it or not" (heart) or "wonder if the right decision was made (head).

Solution: allow both your feelings and thoughts to be considered, even saying them out loud if necessary. Then trust your gut. It will be easier on you and everybody if you are the one with the Board of Directors line.

Love Style and Choice

Your Love Style and the choices you have

For each love style there is a student path (what doesn't feel good) and the master path (what feels good, what serves you best). And in each moment you are at choice about which option you select.

The reason this matter is because, like anything in life, you are the master of your environment. You are the one who trains others how to treat you, as Dr. Phil says from television.

How are you educating people in life how to treat you? How are you acting and responding that tells them, "it's OK to treat me this way." Recently I was at a gathering where somebody was saying things to me tht didn't feel good, although he claims he was teasing me. Even after I teased him back about not saying these things to me, he continued. I decided to educate him in a different way - directly by saying it didn't feel like teasing to me.

I stood on the master path of my heart line and said what I felt, and said what was not OK about how to be treated.

Each day we have many chances to choose the master or student path in every interaction. What does being true to your heart look like with your co-workers? partners? children? family? friends? When you know, in your body, that how somebody is talking to you doesn't feel right to you, what choice do you make? Do you let it continue? Do you ask yourself what other options exist? Do you ask yourself, "what could I say that might provide more clarity for this other person about how I want to be treated in the future?"

Each day, each hour you have the choice to honor yourself and feel the truth of what supports you. And you can help others learn what that is so it's a win-win for everybody.

Love Styles and the law of attraction

The Law of Attraction is always in effect

Knowing this may or may not be new news to you. But applying it to heart lines, your love style and your communication style may be a new thought.
What does it mean?

What it means is that, determined by whatever heart line(s) you have in your hands, you have a filter, a perspective from which you look at life, how you determine what you want from others in your life with whom you are in relationship. And your filter is your point of "attraction."
For example, if you have a Passionate heart line type on both hands, your "filter", your "point of attraction" is through the eyes of "I want what I want and I want it now." So on the good news side, you often get what you want because you are in alignment with knowing what you want and asking for it.

If you are on the student path, challenging side, your "point of attraction" could be "I never get what I want" or "people don't know how to figure out what I want and give it to me" or "I don't deserve to have what I want". So you would be challenged to have your needs met.

For each heart line type, each love style type (they are the same thing) you have a point of attraction. For the Hermit's master path, it could be maintaining your freedom and attracting people and circumstances into your life where you maintain your freedom. But on the student path side, where the law of attraction is also always in effect, if you dwell on feeling trapped and notice where you are feeling trapped, then you attract more of that.

For the Big Heart, paying attention to (law of attraction gives you more of what you pay attention to) having people in your life give back to you and you receive it - the biggest part for you - then you attract more of that - more people giving back to you. But if your focus is so much more on how you give to others, then you feel a lack of being given to because you attract people who want you to give to them. It's all within your consciousness and where you focus your attention.

Romantic Idealists, if focused on being considerate and desiring considerate people in their lives, they attract more of those people. But if they are in resistance to or noticing how "inconsiderate" people are, then they attract more of that.

This law of attraction is always in affect relates to every aspect of each heart line type which would be a good reason to know what all the characteristics are. It's doubtful they will all be explained in this blog in short order (maybe throughout the year). So if you want a more rapid access to knowing the characteristics that affect every relationship in your life, you can check out my web site at http://www.handsoncompany.com/ under products see that there are books and audios that provide much more detail.

Warmly and with enthusiasm that all relationships can be improved just by knowing your heart line/love style,
Pamelah

Love Style of the Big Heart

The Big Heart's Major Characteristic

Nurturing and being a caretaker makes the Big Heart the happiest. Giving, supporting, being there for somebody in crisis or somebody who wants to share some story or feeling about their life. Listening, offering wisdom, solutions or affection satisfies this part of the Big Heart's desire.

Reminding you that this is only one line in the hand, and that 2/3 of the population has more than one heart line type, this could carry less weight of other heart line types are dominant. Or if you also have a Hermit (this is the most common combination I see on hands when there are two heart lines types: the Big Heart and Hermit) sometimes the Hermit may be in affect and the Big Heart is put on the back burner. But it doesn't last long because giving, nurturing and caretaking are so important to feeling satisfies for the Big Heart.